Grief is a normal response to death or loss, and it can affect care workers in different ways. This guide explains how grief may show up in long-term care and home support, why acknowledging grief and loss matters, and how workers, teams, and leaders can support themselves and others.
Grief is part of caregiving work
Grief is the emotional, psychological and physical reaction to death or loss. In caregiving work, the death of a resident or client can be deeply difficult. Grief can also follow a significant change or decline in a person's condition, or when services are discontinued.
Caregiving is relational. Workers may spend weeks, months or years getting to know the people they support. Some relationships become close and may feel like family. Because of that connection, a loss can have a significant impact. Some losses may affect a worker more than others depending on the closeness or length of the relationship.
Repeated exposure to loss can also affect worker wellbeing. Staff should not be expected to become immune to grief or to stop feeling the impact of loss over time.
Grief can look different for everyone
There is no right or wrong way to grieve. A person's grief may be visible, quiet, or difficult for others to recognize. It may bring a range of feelings, including:
- Anger
- Sadness
- Feelings of depression
- Loneliness
- Hopelessness
- Numbness
People may respond differently to the same loss. Making room for those differences can help reduce judgement and stigma and also create more space for a person to work through their experience of loss.
Why recognition and support matter
Grief is an expected and normal part of caregiving work, but it should not be overlooked. When grief is not recognized, acknowledged or supported, it can affect a worker's physical and psychological wellbeing and may contribute to feelings of burnout.
Without appropriate support, caregivers may be left to navigate grief alone. Acknowledgement from coworkers and workplace leaders can help create space for grief and make support easier to access.
A message for anyone impacted by loss
Your feelings are valid. You do not have to grieve in the same way as someone else, and you should not be expected to become desensitized to loss.
Ways workers can care for themselves and one another
Grief support begins with acknowledging that the feelings connected to loss are real. These strategies can help workers and teams respond with care:
- Acknowledge your feelings. What you feel is valid, even if your response differs from someone else's.
- Make room for other people's feelings. A coworker's grief may look different from yours. Hold space for their response without judgement or stigma.
- Reflect on the value of your work. You may find meaning in the care and company you provided, the difference you made, the bond you shared, the appreciation you received or the honour of supporting someone at the end of life.
- Use available supports. Ask what workplace grief supports and resources are available, including an employee assistance program (EAP), if offered by your workplace.
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- Practise self-care at work and at home. Choose forms of care that are meaningful and realistic for you. Self-care can be one part of support, alongside the support from your coworkers.
How workplaces can support staff through grief
Workplaces can help by recognizing loss, making support visible, and giving staff opportunities to acknowledge what has happened. Depending on the workplace and the needs of the team, this may include:
- Formal or informal debriefings
- Peer support gatherings
- Memorial rituals or services
- Grief support for staff
- Education and training related to death, dying and grief
- Clear information about available resources, including the employee assistance program, where available
Support should recognize that people grieve differently. Staff should be able to access help without judgement or pressure to respond in a particular way.