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Using “I” statements

Learn how to use "I" statements to manage your own stress response and reduce internal conflict, fostering a sense of calm during challenging discussions.

What are “I” statements?

“I” statements are a simple yet powerful tool for clear and respectful communication. They allow you to take ownership of your feelings and focus on your perspective of an experience. By framing your concerns around your feelings and needs, you avoid language that sounds like criticism, judgment, or accusations directed at others.

Crucially, "I" statements help regulate your body's nervous system, as they avoid activating your stress response. This helps reduce your internal conflict and encourages healthier and more positive interactions.

How to use “I” statements

The Formula

"I" statements generally follow a simple structure. They are focused on stating how a specific event or situation made you feel, and the request you would like to make. The key is to be specific. Examples of this formula include:

"I feel [emotion] when [specific behaviour or situation]  because [impact]. I need [specific request]."
"When [event] happens, I feel [emotion] because [impact]. I’d like [clear ask]."
The statement can include phrases like:

The power of "I" statements

Individual benefits

Reduced stress
They help regulate your body and prevent activating your stress response.
Improved emotional well-being
They allow you to identify and articulate your own feelings rather than reacting with blame.
Healthier relationships
"I" statements encourage healthier and more positive interactions with others.

Workplace benefits

Reduced conflict

"I" statements focus the conversation on the impact of a situation on you, rather than on the other person's character. This shift reduces the chance of  defensive reactions.

Stronger trust and collaboration

When staff communicate concerns from their own perspective, it demonstrates a commitment to resolving issues without blame. This promotes a workplace mindset of collaboration.

Improved staff well-being

By fostering positive interactions and reducing the stress of potential conflict, "I" statements directly support the emotional health and well-being of staff.

Connection to psychological health and safety

Effective and safe communication is critical to creating and maintaining a psychologically healthy and safe workplace. Since "I" statements reduce conflict and support trust, they are a powerful tool that directly links to the psychological and social support factor in the workplace, fostering a culture of civility and respect.

Strategies for using "I" statements

Use “I statements” properly

Simply starting with “I” and following it with a judgment or criticism is not effective. Be sure to focus on your emotions while avoiding hostility.

Ineffective: “I feel you are disrespectful.”

Effective: “I feel disrespected when my emails aren’t answered.”

Practice re-framing
The next time you want to start with “You are…,” try switching to:

•  I feel…”
• “I notice…”
• “I prefer…”
• “I believe…”
• “I would like…”
Pay attention to your body
Notice how your nervous system responds when you shift from an aggressive “You” statement to a regulated “I” statement. 

This shift is evidence of your nervous system regulating in real-time.

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The kind of leader people don’t forget

Balance, Boundaries, Burnout, Civility and respect, Clear leadership, Communication, Communication, Empathy, Engagement, Growth and development, Leadership, Mental Health, Motivational Interviewing, Organizational culture, Psychological Health and Safety, Psychological protection, Psychological self-care, Psychological social support, Recognition and reward, Self-care, Self-talk, Work-life balance

It didn’t start with leadership. Karen Tasker’s journey at Sienna Senior Living’s Lakeview Lodge Community, in West Kelowna, began in 2013, when she returned to the workforce after 14 years as a stay-at-home mom. Her...

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Before you speak reflections

Communication, PHS Days

Take a few minutes to reflect before or after a difficult workplace communication. This resource is a companion to the webinar: "Before you speak: Communicate with intention."

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Communication in practice

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Effective communication is a daily practice, not perfection! Learn how small shifts in language can transform your workplace connections starting today...

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Building safer spaces

De-escalation, Engagement, Growth and development, Organizational culture, Protection of physical safety, Violence Prevention

“When I saw the participation rate, which was way above 90 per cent of our care staff who took the training, I thought, okay, there is something here,” says Loren Tisdelle, human resources director at Louis Brier...

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Words matter

Civility and respect, Communication, Organizational culture, PHS Days

Workplace communication improves when teams use strength-based language, I statements, objective words, and curiosity to build trust.

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