Caring for residents is so much more than a job. It's a journey that touches the heart and forms deep connections with the people you care for. Every shared moment, every smile, every goodbye leaves a mark on your soul.  

While grief can sometimes feel overwhelming, it's also an opportunity to find meaning and purpose. By honouring the lives and legacies of those you've lost, you can heal and carry their memory forward in a way that shapes your heart and your work. 

Here are three meaningful ways to honour a resident's life and legacy while also taking care of yourself through the grieving process: 

1. Creating rituals to honour residents' lives 

When a resident passes away, it can be tough to deal with the loss. One way to find comfort is by creating rituals that commemorate their memory. 

These can be small, personal gestures, such as:  

• Lighting a candle in their favourite colour  

• Planting a flower or tree in a memorial garden 

• Writing a letter to the resident, sharing what they meant to you and how they touched your heart during the time you spent together 

• Leaving an empty seat during meetings 

2. Sharing memories with colleagues and families 

Losing a resident is never easy. However, sharing memories, whether it is with colleagues or the resident's family, can bring comfort and healing. Caregivers often know them in a way few others do – you see their little quirks, what makes them smile, and the small moments that make up a life. Talking about those moments, the laughter, and the connections you shared is a reminder of the impact you had. 

Sometimes, talking with the resident's family can bring unexpected comfort. Sharing stories, learning about their life beyond your care, and collectively recalling the small moments remind you that their memory continues to live on. 

3. Taking care of yourself through grief 

Taking care of yourself during grief looks different for everyone. Keeping short-term goals, such as to-do lists, can help you stay on track while not being overwhelmed. Also, it's important to be kind to yourself. There's no right or wrong way to grieve.  

Moving through each day, with progress followed by setbacks, can sometimes make healing feel nearly impossible. It's important to remember that healing is far from linear. Some days will be harder than others, but the pain will lessen in time. As the poet Robert Frost wisely said, "The only way out is through." 

If you're looking for more resources, explore our safety topic on grief or check out our previous webinar sessions on decoding and coping with stress and the importance of creating space for grief and loss.